Glossary of Terms

Admiration: a social emotion felt by observing people of competence, talent, or skill exceeding standards. 

Adversarial Congress: The appearance of civility and expectation of adversity above ruthless warfare with the expectation of winning, losing, gaining advantages, and increasing resources and/or power. 

Apply Knowledge: Use The Tenets, Keys, and Tools to see through Stories and reveal truth.

Automaton: you work so hard and use all your energy to maintain the illusion of perfection, defense and protection, you have little to nothing left to devote to self awareness, care and healing.

Bearing Witness: We are generously spared direct damage and personal anguish by experiencing empathy and providing necessary service. We cultivate compassion and gain insight from another being’s experience that allows us to make necessary choices for the self.

Bone of contention: the cause of a long-standing argument.

Comparison: a mental condition in which one competes to aggrandize or diminish the self by aggrandizing or diminishing another. 

Competition: the need or desire to prove oneself by winning as expressed in a mental/physical/emotional aggression or challenge for supremacy, power and control.

Deflect: to cause (something) to change direction by juxtaposition; to turn aside from a straight course, as in accusing others of what the self is doing to shift focus away from the true doings of the self. 

Deflate: To stifle creativity, imagination, enthusiasm, passion, joy, awe, beauty, wonder or other essential life energies in another human.

Dismiss: to definitively discard or reject anything we don’t want to see, hear, recognize, acknowledge, admit to or deal with; to universally reject anything of which we do not approve or with which we do not agree; to order someone out of your superior presence by word or by deed in a condescending, patronizing or otherwise insulting manner.

Disarm: Choose to Stop! Being perpetually Defensive and strategically Offensive to compensate for the sense of lack experienced within the self.

Empowerment: Healing by freeing the self of the need to Defend and Protect our Choices. 

F.I.N.E.: Frustrated. Insecure. Neurotic. Emotional and pretending otherwise.

Humility: The recognition we do not and cannot Know without questioning and evaluating the answers.

Hypocrisy: Do as I say not as I do. Okay for me, never for you. 

Lesson: the presence of uncomfortable emotions followed by an automatic Defensive or Protective response.

Lesson Plan: the Automatic, Always-on, Defense and Protection System developed by the Human Mind in response to trauma, fear, anger and pain.

Lesson Plan Alert!: Something is different. A threat or potential danger is subconsciously recognized. Like a yellow light or a Stop! sign at an intersection; an Alert! signals the need to pay attention. Choice and Lesson are present.

Lesson Plan Activation: The physical body responds to the Alert! with emotional energy and a discomfiting visceral response.

Lesson Plan Escalation: Emotional energy increases exponentially to fuel fight or flight. One is still capable of Recognizing, Acknowledging and Attending The Lesson. The more emotional we are, the more Rigid we are, the less Choice we have in the moment.

Lesson Plan Engagement: The Lesson Plan is Actively Defending and Protecting. Vital Energy has been focused on Weapons directed at The Threat. Once The Lesson Plan is Engaged, Choice is eliminated. The intention to Damage results in Damage. to the self and at least one other Human. 

Exercise Curiosity: Ask Questions and Listen to the answers especially when exercising curiosity about the self.

Lesson Plan Debriefing: Objective review of events to determine where we succeed and fail and make choices that prevent future failures. 

Lesson Resistance: Refusing to listen, to be present, to learn. When resistance is the lesson you’re avoiding the lesson because you don’t like or don’t want to acknowledge the truth. 

Lesson Resolution: The successful completion of any Lesson marked by two outstanding factors — we chose to be or were automatically different and we Feel Good about both, the outcome and the self. 

Lesson Avoidance: When avoidance is the Lesson, we know it’s on us to take action, but we don’t want to, so we pretend it’s not there. 

Pairs: Any two Humans choosing To Learn with one another. 

Release: The successful movement of stored traumatic energy from the body that confirms Learning and accompanies permanent Healing. Ref: Waking the Tiger by Peter A. Levine

Resistance: The universal, internal, No! I won’t!

Resonance: a large vibration is produced in response to an external stimulus, occurring when the frequency of the stimulus is the same, or nearly the same, as the natural vibration frequency of the system. 

Scripts, Lists and Stories: The litanies we believe and repeat. 

Seek Assistance: Ask for feedback from people who know by experience, expertise or profession; Listen to the answers; gain knowledge, develop insight and apply wisdom.

Self-assurance: Confidence in one’s ability to consistently make affirming, Honoring and Respectful Choices. 

Self: My/Your: the everyday ego-personality that moves through the world.

The Self: Our healed, integrated, authentic wholeness including conscience, inner teacher, higher guidance, truth, and chosen becoming.

Spiritual Generosity: The condition in which we are able to share a spark of joy or kindness by being thoughtful, aware of and kind to others with sincerity, appreciation and/or heartfelt Gratitude. 

The Goodness of Your Heart: The energy we give or things we do without thought or need for recognition or recompense.

The Greater Good: The unknown, universal benefit to the self, other humans, our planet and all its inhabitants of our choice to cultivate Honor and Respect For The Self and All Others At All Times.

The Path to Healing: A spiritual school for Humans predicated upon the ideas that Earth is a School, and The Purpose of Life is To Learn.

The Plan: Stop! Breathe. Focus. Question. Choose.

The Tools: The Tenets, The Keys, Willingness, Intention, Permission; Objectivity. Discernment. Honor and Respect. Truth, Choice, Impeccable Honesty, Gratitude, Humility, Kindness, Spiritual Generosity, and Love.

Weaponized Human: A Human with a Lesson Plan who Damages the Self and others with or without awareness and intention.

Wise and Trusted Counsel: A Human who is willing To Listen and provide truthful objectivity and insight without Judgment.