My Lesson Plan
This is My Fortress. Beneath the surface, my Authentic Self is wounded and unhealed. The Fear feeds The Rage. The Rage fuels The Lesson Plan. The Lesson Plan exists to ensure that I am perceived as invulnerable and confident. My Fortress is impenetrable, yet I do not feel safe. Nothing gets in. Not even Love.
Intentional, Purposeful, Choiceful Healing
See the Self.
Know the Self.
Know the Self.
Questions: Are you content and at peace with the self? Are you someone you accept, Respect, love and like, or is there always a thorn in the side about which to gripe? Is your Mind a whirling dervish or is it tranquil, serene and quiet? What would you change? How would you be different given a choice? How might not having The List or The Voice or The Pain or The Rage change your life?
Know the Self.
Know the Self.
Know the Self.
Learning hurts. Changing hurts. Healing hurts. Nothing hurts as much as The List of Things That Are Wrong With Me; The Lesson Plan that Defends and Protects it, and The Voice In My Head that that tells me I’m not good enough. Question: What might it be like to silence The Voice in The Head that says you’re unworthy and cultivate The Voice in your Heart that says, You are Loved?
Heal the Self.
Know the Self.
Weaponized Love
When we are suffering without understanding we cannot be content or peacefully Live with the self. The Pain and The Rage we experience at being Judged and found wanting is righteous. The way we deal with it is not. I am not now nor have I ever been responsible for The Pain of my abusers. I am absolutely responsible for the Damage I’ve done to the Self and others as a result.
Weaponized Love
Free Will and Choice
Weaponized Love
If you love me, you will do as I say.
If You love ME… you will Stop!
Until we Choose to Stop! Judging and Start Learning, The Lesson Plan is who we are. Honor and Respect for the self and others is not learned from Humans who do not Honor and Respect the self. Weaponized love is not Love! Weaponized Love is The Lesson Plan feeding itself.
Weaponized Human
Free Will and Choice
Free Will and Choice
Here‘s what I Learned: It is The Fear and The Pain we Reject and The Rage we Refuse to Acknowledge that anchors The Lesson Plan, poisons our thinking and imprisons us. The decision to Stop! Diminishing The Self by negating, dismissing, criticizing, judging or otherwise invalidating others is a Choice that greets, invites and welcomes Love.
Free Will and Choice
Free Will and Choice
Free Will and Choice
If it was easy, it would not be a Choice. Everything needed is provided. We have a Lesson Plan. We have a Syllabus. We have a guide. We have abundant opportunities to practice. As long as we Stop! Breathe. Focus, and give the self a Choice, we have it in our Power to experience success. The Work will support you. Silver Sage is Here To Help.
Willingness and Permission
Choose To Be Willing.
Choose To Acknowledge The Self.
Choose To Recognize Truth.
The Lesson Plan defies detection by integrating a perpetual state of wariness and preemptive defense and protection that Humans come to accept as natural and believe is both normal and necessary. Until we we are willing To Question and explore, The Lesson Plan is who we are.
Choose To Recognize Truth.
Choose To Acknowledge The Self.
Choose To Recognize Truth.
The Lesson Plan is not The Self.
The Lesson Plan is the integrated, autonomous, automatic, always-on
weaponized, defense and protection program created by The Human Mind in response to trauma, fear and pain to safeguard our unhealed, vulnerable self.
Choose To Acknowledge The Self.
Choose To Acknowledge The Self.
Choose To Acknowledge The Self.
Handbook for Humans empowers students with opportunities To Learn To Discern the differences between The Lesson Plan and The Self and establishes parameters for Right Thinking and Correct Action that build self awareness and restore The Powers of Free Will and Choice that enable Healing.
Confidence, Authenticity and Radical Self -Love
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
The Lesson Plan is The Darkness all Humans have in common so the The Lesson Plan is where we start. First things first: There is no pedestal to stand atop. Not one life is more or less important than any other. Accept your Humanity. Stop! pretending you are better. Stop! Pretending you’re F.I.N.E. and Stop! Pretending it’s okay. It is not.
It is not okay to Diminish, Negate, Dismiss or Berate anyone, especially the self, for not being perfect enough or good enough to fix the thing
we fear is broken or replace the thing we fear
is missing in the self. All is Lesson.
All is Necessary. All is for you.
Each must Choose and Do for the Self.
Embrace Lesson.
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
Failing and Repeating Lessons allows us to Choose in the moment. Each greater Lesson contains smaller, skill-building challenges and Tests to show us how much has been Learned and
how much is still automatic. As we become Accountable, we Learn to correctly experience, process and integrate Remorse and Regret. When we suffer with full knowledge of The Pain we feel and The Pain we cause others, we are suffering with purpose that ends when we automatically Demonstrate we are different. We Admit it. We grieve it. We make a Plan To Never, Ever Be that, Do that, Think that or Say that Ever Again; and
we practice until we succeed in making it so.
Feel Good. Eliminate Should.
Stop! Judging. Start Listening.
Feel Good. Eliminate Should.
Honor and Respect do not Expect. A Should is an obligation or a duty to fulfill an expectation; not necessarily something we would want or choose for the Self. Expecting someone else to save us or complete us is like expecting a brick wall to talk. Shoulds don’t Feel Good to anyone involved.
All Shoulds are Lessons about Judgment!
Stop! Breathe. Focus. The Questions are:
What do I hope to find in someone else that I do not have or fear is missing within the self? From where does this Story originate? What were the expectations attached? Did I fail or succeed?
Is there a Truth for me to Acknowledge?
What shall I choose? Story or Truth?
Allow the Process.
Practice! Practice! Practice!
Feel Good. Eliminate Should.
Failure is not a character flaw. Failure is a Lesson. Failure builds Fortitude, Tenacity and Resilience. If we are Anxious. Antsy. Itchy. Tense. Nasty. Tetchy. Critical. Impatient. Sarcastic. Resentful. Dismissive. Disgusted. Disgruntled. Bitter. Angry. Defensive, or otherwise upset, Lesson is Present, and we have a Choice! Participate In or Avoid The Lesson. Lesson Avoidance is Resistance. Resistance is The Lesson Plan Defending and Protecting itself. Resistance stalls and intensifies future Lesson. Resistance is an important Lesson about Intention and Willingness. Who will you Choose to be?
The Lesson Plan or The Self?
Practice! Practice! Practice!
Practice! Practice! Practice!
Practice! Practice! Practice!
The Lesson Plan lives in The Mind. The Mind is our playground. The Question is: What do I want to play at? Being My Lesson Plan or Being My Self?
I can allow The Fear and The Lesson Plan To Judge or I can Stop! Breathe. Focus and Question what the Judgment is really all about. What am I Judging? How is this Judgment about myself? Does it Feel Good? If not, I have a Choice!
When I Choose to Stop! Judging and Prove
my Intention by repeatedly making the same Choice, I facilitate self awareness; Resolution and Release of Bitterness, Resentment and Anger and instill self assurance by Proving to myself
that I am, indeed, both Capable and Worthy.
Be Gentle.
Practice! Practice! Practice!
Practice! Practice! Practice!
The Question is: How does My Lesson Plan reveal all the ways in which I was damaged; all the ways in which I damage others and all the ways in which I damage myself? Humans are Weaponized by osmosis. We Disarm by Choice. Learning is a process. A Discipline. A Practice.
We are unhealed, and we are worthy. It is a new way to experience the self. Patience, Kindness and Humor are required. We have The Tools and The Instructions. We employ Gratitude, Humility, Patience, Kindness, Regret, Remorse and Love. Stop! beating yourself up!
We Learn as we Learn, and that is enough.
Daily Practices
Gratitude
Spiritual Generosity
Spiritual Generosity
First, Cultivate Gratitude for all you have and all you’ve earned. Next Cultivate Gratitude for anything to which you may believe you are Entitled. Wealth? Position? Power? Recognition? Acknowledgment? Loyalty? Appreciation? Honor and Respect? If these qualities are missing and desired, instill and cultivate these qualities within the Self by demonstrating Gratitude whenever opportunity presents. To appreciate others is to value the self. Here’s where Good Manners and etiquette really help. Even when we’re giving orders, Please; Thank you, Excuse me and I’m sorry Recognizes, Acknowledges, Honors and Respects the Self and all others at all times. For The Denialista, cultivating and expressing Gratitude may be a new skill. Keeping a Daily Lesson and Gratitude Journal really helps.
Spiritual Generosity
Spiritual Generosity
Spiritual Generosity
Kindness Feels Good. Spiritual Generosity is doing something from the Goodness of Your Heart. No recognition or recompense is required. Being thoughtful of others reminds us we’re not alone. Everyone hurts. Everyone struggles. Kindness never hurt anyone. Open and hold a door for someone. Wait your turn at Stop! Signs. Turn down the volume. Ask how someone is and Listen to their answer. Make someone laugh. You never know how far a spark of Kindness can travel. Be Kind and Spiritually Generous because it Feels Good to express The Goodness of your Heart. When we choose to rescue and heal the Self, every Kindness matters. Spiritual Generosity, Kindness, and Gratitude Heal The Lesson Plan of Denial with Humility, Grace and Compassion, the highest expression of Human Love.
Journal
Spiritual Generosity
Journal
Lessons. Concise notation works best for me. You may be prolific. We chart our progress and Apply Knowledge to understand The Lesson. Do whatever works to clarify, apply Right Thinking and Move Forward. What have I Learned? Where did I Succeed? How did I Fail? What will I do differently next time this Lesson is presented? When we understand our Syllabus, we can prepare for and Attend All Lessons with Willingness, Purpose and Intention, thus cultivating experience that promotes Healing and becomes Wisdom. Gratitude. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for being present. Thank you for asking a question before Judging or taking action. Gratitude is the antidote for Superiority and Entitlement. Gratitude Feels Good. Feeling Good IS The Work. The way has been lighted. Help is available. Give thanks!